How to Handle Break up?
Break up surely hits your negative sides if you are emotionally wined and especially when your feelings are deeply rooted. It is not easy to end up in a mutual way, sometimes it becomes very torturous and carry a number of mishaps. It can be the hardest thing that you ever did.
But for time being it become quite necessary if you are all set to end up a relationship, otherwise an unhappy and unhealthy relationship can drag you on for years and can even take decades. So, you must be strong and determined if you surely want break up.
You must think that what the reasons that made this situation and you are breaking up with your partner. You must think of the issues to resolve rather to end up a relationship. Make sure that you don’t raise the same issue that you already discussed but if it keeps you betrayed or unsatisfied then its better to get separated. If break up becomes the only way then must have articulate reasons for your breaking up. You may take help of the counselor or someone you trust to take over the issue.
One thing that you must consider that don’t go through breakup by phone, email, or any sort of instant messenger system. And also never did it through any type of disappearing act or any sudden eliminating contact. All these can be psychologically damaging. You must handle this breaking calmly, never use deadly words. Sit calmly with your partner and elaborate all issues that why you decided to break up.
There must be various reactions like manipulating or questioning or arguing and even crying. You must handle all these situations in more and more complacent manner. There is also the risk of doing physical harm. This could be serious but cannot be ignored. If it feels as such that your safety is being interrogated, you may leave quickly.
After break up Maintain distance as much as you can. Engage yourself in other things that you wanted otherwise to do so that to involve your mind in other assets and get relaxed. You must be having a soft corner but this is the time when you have to move on.